Pray, Leave it, and DANCE

“The world is divided into two classes, those who believe the incredible, and those who do the improbable.”

– Oscar Wilde

posterized vals date

Yours truly. February 12th. Valentine’s Date loading…

What an amazing year 2016 has been already! “Pray, leave it, and dance”? What is she writing about now?

You wives and mummies out there know how busy the home can get, especially when you start a year filled with goals and aspirations. I keep thinking (time and time again) how God has placed such strength in the woman to have the desire to “do” and to accomplish this sacred burning desire, which at first may seem ridiculously impossible, but when you actually get to the finish line you’ll say, “What in the world? I did all that? Wow, God I worship You.”

Before I go into “Pray, Leave it, and Dance,” let me update you quickly on some exciting stuff we’ve done this year for school at home. I get excited when I think about it.

the homeschool grind jan feb

  1. Continents. There’s this cute song about continents that my boys have mastered. My 3-year old can point to the continents on a world map and name them, while my 1-year old is fine with just singing the songs. Woohoo!
  2. Counting to 40 (3-year old).
  3. Sounding out the alphabets (letter sounds) for my 1 year old. So funny how this lesson happened by accident (laughter!)
  4. Addition and subtraction using the tens-frame (3-year old)
  5. Sight words every week (3-year old). Our newest invention is a cup game I found on pinterest. You write words on different paper cups and make it a game where your preschooler gets to pick a cup and read the word. Playing while learning. Genius!
  6. Beginning stages of handwriting (3-year old). We’ve done a bit already, but we’ve just received delivery for our new handwriting book from “Handwriting Without Tears.” Can you sense my excitement through the screen?

Now that I’ve gone on a little bit about #homeschool, let’s talk about the real post.

“Pray, Leave it, and Dance” may seem a little light-hearted and may make you giggle a little bit, but it’s a summary of my recent learnings in proverbs 31 land. Recently, I’ve learned that when you’re pushed against the wall and life seems kinda overwhelming with those burning desires to fulfill everything perfectly, there are three things you can do.

#1. Pray. 

When you’re a wife and mommy, don’t feel guilty if your prayers are as short as ten seconds sometimes. Just a little “Lord, help me” should do. Your Father is not so distant that He does not see you right there in your bedroom, or does not see your heart, or cannot hear those tiny little words you can mutter just for a day. I’ve secretly always known that a “deep” prayer is not necessarily going down on your knees and flipping through the Bible for prayer points. That’s a Bible study + a prayer. Again, seeking your Daddy’s face can be as simple as saying a simple, “Father, please help me. Show me Your mighty right hand. Guide my thoughts. Guide my plans. Please, lead me in the right direction today.” Sounds easy to pray, right?

#2. Leave the Matter.

Dear people, when you find yourself brainstorming about something again and again, and it feels like you’re in a wilderness (i.e. the solution does not seem to be appearing), leave the matter for a day and revisit it later. Why? Your Father is working something out for you in the background. Think about a photographer’s work. He takes the photographs, but some time is needed for the editing. The photographs are like a wilderness wherein an oasis needs to be created. He will make a way for you in your wilderness. He will make a way for you when there seems to be no possible way. I’ve been here before, and He’s made a way uncountable times for me.

Check out Isaiah 43:18-21. Here, the Lord says:

“Forget the former things;
Do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness
and streams in the wasteland.
The wild animals honor me,
the jackals and the owls,
because I provide water in the wilderness
and streams in the wasteland,
to give drink to my people, my chosen,
the people I formed for myself
that they may proclaim my praise.”

So when next you’re in a rut, pause for a second and remember this verse. You are not alone. Somewhere, your Father is preparing a way of possibilities for you in that wilderness. Imagine this: He is about to provide water in a place where it’s humanly impossible to find water — in an arid desert-land, that barren wilderness of sand dunes. Hallelujah! Leave the matter alone for now. Come back later and by faith you’ll find your water waiting.

#3. Dance.

Ladies, do not underestimate the value of dancing. This february I was preparing for a Valentine’s day date with the hubby (for which the weather was freezing and I felt tired already from the day’s activities and for another reason which I may talk about in a future post). However, my dear friend was like, “Look, you better turn up some sweet music and get into the mood while you’re getting all dolled up.”

And what do you know? I jejely followed that simple command and lo and behold, everything changed. Of course, the day called for some “love” music and I danced my way through that prep time and came out a different person. Incredibly, that little activity of listening to music in the bathroom and dancing to it caused me to shake it off, let go, and let God. So when I say “dance,” I really mean “dance.” Lol.

I’ll end the post for today by sharing my recent favorite video from a “dancing and cute” couple on Youtube who just recently had baby #1. If you’ve already had a baby, this video (their birth Vlog) will make you smile. If you’re about to have a baby, you may shed some tears of joy. Lol. Anyhow, I watch their videos these days because I can’t get over how cute they are as first time parents. Warning: It’s a long video so you can skip to the last 3 minutes just to see a quick summary. Have a blessed weekend, guys! Mwah!

 

8 thoughts on “Pray, Leave it, and DANCE

  1. I had no idea you were writing here!!! Oh my!!

    I’ve recently felt guilty about my prayer time/life not being as “robust” as I would have really liked but this just reminded me not to feel guilty, it’s the quality of the conversation that matters and not just the length.

    On school at home for your boys….I read it thinking “Oh my goodness I totally want to be a stay at home mum and have all this time for my son.” But can I ask
    1. Is your 2nd son gaining faster traction because he’s learning with your 1st? Or was it just as easy with your 1st even at 1year old.
    2. I have a really active toddler and getting him to sit still is always such a huge task. How does that work?
    3. Can you point me in the direction of some useful material that can help?

    Thank

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    • My darling Ogo,

      Yay, glad you stopped by 🙂 I loved what you wrote here, “It’s the quality of the conversation that matters and not just the length.” The truth is our Father sees our hearts as wives and mothers, and He even knows what we want to say before we can articulate it properly. Praise God! He is not looking for a speech or poem or anything of that sort…He simply wants us to come just as we are, sometimes broken…sometimes strong.

      On school at home, girlfriend…first, you don’t have to be a SAHM to implement a little school at home. I learned from my friend that there’s something called “after-schooling” as well, identical to homeschooling but supplementary to traditional school.

      Let me answer your Q’s:
      1. Yes, #2 is gaining faster traction than #1 ever did…because he is so fascinated when he watches his older brother reciting all the school stuff, and he simply just doesn’t want to carry last. lol.

      2. Toddlers don’t have long attention spans. The most I can get from a formal “instruction and activity” session is 2 hours. Anything outside that is “creative play” where I get to pretend like we’re playing but we’re still learning.

      3. To know how to implement “homeschool” I’ve had to do a lot of research on the different curriculums and approaches. The first thing to do is really to decide what “homeschooling style” you want for your children. There are so many blogs and articles that talk about “homeschooling styles” so you can just google it and then decide what’s best for you. Our current homeschooling curriculum is derived from the standard department of education CORE curriculum (USA) while using Montessori materials and enhancing our studies by doing “unit studies.” Unit studies just means that we focus on a specific topic and do all kinds of activities related to that one topic, including taking trips to places. See my homeschool resources page here. If interested, we can discuss in full details by email…just email me when you get a chance. Mwah!

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  2. Thanks for the encouragement! I’m currently a stay at home mom and I have a 15 month old daughter. I was wondering if you can give me some point on home schooling. Thanks!

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    • Hi Bunmi,

      It’s good to see you over here, thanks for stopping by 🙂 Awww 15 months old? Just two months younger than my #2.

      About homeschooling, the first thing to do is really to decide what “homeschooling style” you want for your children. There are so many blogs and articles that talk about “homeschooling styles” so you can just google it and then decide what’s best for you. Our current homeschooling curriculum is derived from the standard department of education CORE curriculum (USA) while using Montessori materials and enhancing our studies by doing “unit studies.” Unit studies just means that we focus on a specific topic and do all kinds of activities related to that one topic, including taking trips to places. See my homeschool resources page here. I’d love to answer any other questions you may have, I’m still learning myself so we can learn together as well.

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